Comments on: Loneliness

By: Tim

Tim — Wed, 17 Mar 2021 23:25:26 +0000

Very interesting. I have been alone most of my life. I’ve never had a lot of friends. I like myself I’ve gotten used to it. But that’s not always the case. We are inundated with socializing. It’s hard not to feel lonely in a world that practically forces social connection upon us. I have not been able to find a proper balance. I feel like a loser. I do my best to cope. It’s sounds corny but I have to learn to be my best friend and that is the hardest for me.

By: Zero

Zero — Mon, 20 Jul 2020 08:18:13 +0000

Hi happy Philosopher,
I am a guy who really dove deep into loneliness. Many of your thought were also my personal experiences and understandings toward this phenomenon. One thing that for now i can add to this puzzle is being on the borders of absolute subjective loneliness, confrontation of Sein (being) on its rawest form as we feel the absolute meaning of this subjective, existential loneliness. As i was in my salitude and faced this fact that in loneliness is nature of my being, I understood that im alone in my subjectivness and as a conclusion i faced that loneliness is my individuality. From this point I faced that my existence is in my lonely individuality and i accepted that i exist but lonely exist. This was a nice feeling that im there alone, living, breathing, seeing, hearing and experiencing life and sein. At this point i really enjoyed only being-there (Da-sein) and the reallity of my lone individuality. This feeling of joy is now present in every aspect of my life and im carrying it everywhere. facing loneliness > understanding of sein> enjoying dasein> coming out of this cave with this nice feeling of being there> looking out of my individuality window> searching for people who found it and sharing experiences or point this fact to people who haven’t faced this reallity> use this social experiences to come back once again to my individual being, but this time much bigger with new experiences if mine or from others.

By: Martha B

Martha B — Wed, 01 Apr 2020 03:06:51 +0000

Well it is March 31, 2020…the world is in a Pandemic. I was looking for some connection , to help me understand the true concepts of loneliness and its meaning. I spend a lot of time alone. But I feel most comfortable here. Now with the Pandemic, many people are in isolation. It’s a weird time. I miss the freedom of traveling and experiencing nature.

By: Adrian

Adrian — Thu, 25 Apr 2019 07:25:24 +0000

The answer is simple
before we were borne we were in a world of love
at birth we were born into a space time world which disconnected us from that love world
On planet earth we try and find that connection again, and when ever we feel love, its there
love is admiring the beauty of a butterfly, connecting spiritually with another, tuning in to music or art.
Love, the real original love is perhaps what many call god, Im not sure of everything only that when we die theres a good chance to return to it.

By: Robert Moon

Robert Moon — Thu, 04 Apr 2019 17:47:48 +0000

Each human being inhabits an almost entirely unique and private existence for the simple reason that our memories, beliefs, expectations and perceptions exist within our individual minds and nowhere else. There is no outside world, the world that be believe we exist in. We exist in our minds, and in our minds we find our self and no one else.

I think that loneliness is only loneliness if we say so. Even though we may have people that we feel close to and enjoy being with, those experiences are within our minds, not in the “world”. The expectation that someone or some group is going to recuse us from so called loneliness is the beginning of the creation of loneliness.

Being human and feeling lonely is equivalent to being a fish in the sea who longs for salt water. We are lonely to the extent that we feel isolated, but feeling isolated while being immured in vast existence is just a sad little story that we tell ourselves.

By: Renae

Renae — Sat, 16 Jun 2018 18:39:47 +0000

I have found much truth in the Buddhist idea that loneliness is due to the incorrect belief that one’s happiness is caused by other people. Furthermore it is fuelled by thinking too much about what can he done for the Self and not enough about what can be done for Others. Also, loneliness is an incorrect belief in that non-duality is reality (again Buddhist philosophy).

By: Alejandra

Alejandra — Sun, 03 Dec 2017 23:31:22 +0000

I loved how you touched on the importance of self love and to put it in less mushy terms, really liking yourself. Realizing that we are all doing the best we can and are constantly evolving. We came to this world perfectly imperfect. We don’t have to earn love or prove that we are worthy….by being alive we are already worthy. If everyone would invest more time in culminating more self love, there would be more tolerence, community, and joy not just that fleet in happiness. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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By: Neil

Neil — Tue, 26 Sep 2017 23:39:13 +0000

I’m a bit of an oddball in that I seldom (almost never) experience loneliness and I’m generally happy to be alone. I have thought about this, as my daughter is quite the opposite and is very focused on her friendships and the support of others.

I think it has something to do with our sense of purpose. If our relationships give us a sense of purpose in this world, then we are more likely to experience loneliness (when those relationships are not available) – but if our sense of purpose is linked to something else, loneliness plays less of a role.

Now there’s only one problem with my hypothesis: I don’t have (or feel) a particularly strong life’s purpose – in fact, I’m not sure such a thing exists. Damn it! Back to the drawing board.

By: TheHappyPhilosopher

TheHappyPhilosopher — Wed, 09 Aug 2017 03:53:11 +0000

In reply to Svend Jacobsen.

Thanks for the comment. You cannot eradicate loneliness, you can only accept it and deal with it. Connection is easier when we feel we are worthy of that connection. Being worthy is internal, not external approval seeking. We will never solve loneliness by looking outside ourselves. Being alone and being lonely are two very different things.

I’ve found that acceptance of reality solves many of the problems we create as humans.

🙂