Comments on: The Real Benefits of Honesty Nobody Told You https://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/ A Guide to Freedom and Happiness Fri, 26 Feb 2021 16:18:11 +0000 hourly 1 By: Wouter M. Verhagen https://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/#comment-11606 Fri, 26 Feb 2021 16:18:11 +0000 http://thehappyphilosopher.com/?p=388#comment-11606 I have 2 titles for two books. Don’t know how to write it. I’ve never written anything let alone a book….but I sort of know them by heart (and I don’t mean the title); The Pursuit of Truth and the Art of Self-Honesty & The Love of Truth and the Discipline of Honesty. Well.. at least they are close to my heart.

]]> By: Tom https://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/#comment-11605 Wed, 24 Feb 2021 01:18:02 +0000 http://thehappyphilosopher.com/?p=388#comment-11605 I like this. I found it in a search for how lies impact us, environment, everything. How we’ve become a culture of lying. And what to do about it.
https://judiketteler.com/would-i-lie-to-you/
It seems like nothing but it matters. Reality TV shows have taught us and our children to lie without consequence.
Sometimes something that’s not true is accidental, peripheral to a moment, like a documentary script. A story line that’s not true, but inconsequential. I pointed out such a thing to my boyfriend, at the premier of a film he’s in. He dumped me for it. I was in trouble for calling out the lie. I wasn’t harsh or accusatory; I wasn’t even thinking about in terms of a lie. I innocently asked why they put that in there.
In the year since, more lies have revealed themselves. Totally unnecessary, these people have money, respect, stature, they don’t need to lie. But what’s really brutal is that they are never doubted.
A wife is promoted as Native American, a cultural icon, getting awards and opportunity meant for Native American women. She’s Hispanic/Latina. She wrote a book about a tribal elder and was presumed to be indigenous because of her appearance. The lie continues on social media. They don’t say it implicitly, but imply it and never correct when an admirer says it outright.
Another woman has built an entire narrative and acting career around being a professional expert pilot. When she’s not. And running a non-profit foundation that delivers suicide prevention programs. She doesn’t.

I don’t know why it bugs me so much. These things can be fact-checked, but no one does.

]]> By: Wouter Martijn Verhagen formerly known as Everbee https://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/#comment-11480 Wed, 21 Aug 2019 18:55:03 +0000 http://thehappyphilosopher.com/?p=388#comment-11480 In reply to Wouter Verhagen (previously Everbee).

Sorry, just have to add another:

https://www.becomingminimalist.com/why-honesty-is-the-best-policy-for-simplicity/

Probably one of the best posts on honesty, and it rhymes with yours.

]]> By: Wouter Verhagen (previously Everbee) https://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/#comment-11074 Fri, 07 Dec 2018 18:31:07 +0000 http://thehappyphilosopher.com/?p=388#comment-11074 Found a few new ones. I don’t want to mess up your comment section, but I think they’re worth it.

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/09/19/well/mind/how-honesty-could-make-you-happier.html

https://yogainternational.com/article/view/satya-a-practice-of-truthfulness

https://www.google.nl/amp/s/www.yogajournal.com/.amp/yoga-101/let-s-be-honest

https://www.thoughtco.com/the-fourth-buddhist-precept-450102

]]> By: Everbee https://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/#comment-10603 Sat, 14 Apr 2018 13:55:01 +0000 http://thehappyphilosopher.com/?p=388#comment-10603 In reply to Everbee.

I’ve made a bookmark-map with things that fed my soul. It contains:

http://jasonconnell.co/lying/
https://www.franksonnenbergonline.com/blog/honesty-the-plain-and-simple-truth/
http://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/
http://stopatnothing.com/posts/three-simple-steps-to-feed-your-soul/
https://books.google.nl/books?id=Ux1ZDQAAQBAJ&pg=PT37&lpg=PT37&dq=sincerity+trustworthiness&source=bl&ots=hyOrZKBdh1&sig=_6rtnXkoOKsa6xR_oJtKxFLqmSQ&hl=nl&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjh4O3YjZfaAhWEZlAKHSADBC8Q6AEwBXoECAUQAQ#v=onepage&q=sincerity%20trustworthiness&f=false
https://wakeup-world.com/2015/05/25/spiritual-honesty-why-good-thinking-and-bad-feelings-matter/

You might want to check them out.
I might also add my own beginnersblog,
http://truthfulhearts.blogspot.nl/?m=1 (it only has one post so far).

Thank you for feeding my soul.

]]> By: Everbee https://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/#comment-10602 Sat, 14 Apr 2018 13:54:16 +0000 http://thehappyphilosopher.com/?p=388#comment-10602 In reply to TheHappyPhilosopher.

*Just a post so I can get notified by email*

]]> By: TheHappyPhilosopher https://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/#comment-10493 Tue, 20 Feb 2018 18:47:15 +0000 http://thehappyphilosopher.com/?p=388#comment-10493 In reply to Everbee.

You are correct, 100% is impossible in almost anything we strive for, but I think we learn a lot about ourselves striving for the extreme. I should write a post about this. In short, I try to use honesty as an anchor in my life. It simplifies tings so much when you are honest about everything, but also adds a layer of complexity as sometimes honesty is not what people want to hear. Whenever someone says something ridiculous in our house we put it through the following heuristic:

1. Is it true
2. Is it kind
3. Is it necessary

Often it fails more than one of these questions. I will put follow-up to this post on my “to write” list 🙂

]]> By: Everbee https://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/#comment-10491 Mon, 19 Feb 2018 20:45:29 +0000 http://thehappyphilosopher.com/?p=388#comment-10491 I love honesty. I also like the fact that you’re going for 100% honesty; I’ve tried to do the same. However, without trying to use this as an excuse, I don’t think 100% perfection can be reached – not even in trying to be honest.
Still, it’s a worthy goal to aim at.

Anyway, you wrote this at the end of 2015. I can’t find any follow up post about how it went.

]]> By: Experiment: Abstaining From Alcohol | The Happy Philosopher https://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/#comment-9887 Wed, 25 Oct 2017 04:30:21 +0000 http://thehappyphilosopher.com/?p=388#comment-9887 […] drive home or get a ride. All those decisions were pre-made for 6 months. I wrote about one of the benefits of total honesty was never having to make a decision about whether to lie or not. These things matter. They add up […]

]]> By: Adventures in Full-Time Work | The Happy Philosopher https://thehappyphilosopher.com/the-real-benefits-of-honesty-nobody-told-you/#comment-9868 Wed, 25 Oct 2017 04:16:05 +0000 http://thehappyphilosopher.com/?p=388#comment-9868 […] prepared, but somehow the story seemed funnier if I didn’t like it. Please forgive me for this little white lie and thank you for the suspension of […]

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